The Goal Of Online Dating Is To Get Offline As Soon As Possible - Amy Webb
Such strange times to be single... Although I would like to think of myself as a blue ribbon conversationalist, my plants don’t seem to care;)
Bored and lonely, I decided to give online dating another go…
I was hoping I would meet Mr. Right, this time around? Not really... Was I hoping for a new friend? Absolutely! I really do enjoy hearing people’s stories and I feel, now more than ever, people are just looking for some form of connection, myself included!
So I thought, “What the hell”, while I was waiting for Mr. Right to come walking back into my barbershop, I’ll throw my hat back in the ring. Side note: I think maybe I’ve already met Mr. Right but he was wearing a mask, so I have no idea what he looks like, just that he wears a pair of Levis really well;)
I googled the best dating sites for Victoria-just in case there were any new ones kicking around. FYI, there isn’t anything new as far as I can tell, but thanks to the World Wide Web, you can find a dating site for pretty much everything, these days. If you’d like to meet someone who plays golf, there’s a site for that! If you’d like to meet someone who has tattoos, there’s a site for that! Looking for one and done? There are numerous sites for that… There’s even a hippy dating site, patchouli included;)
I tried searching, “Looking for a guy who’s funny, confident, respectful, nice hands/arms and smells good, has his shit mostly together and likes fiery red heads” but there didn’t seem to be a dating site for that;) Maybe I should go to old school and put an ad in Monday Magazine or the Times Colonist?!?
So I rolled up my sleeves and poked my nose into Inked Dating. I was really hoping that it was going to be filled with guys like the dudes on @beardandtattoos. I follow on Instagram… But no such luck! Don’t get me wrong, I’m sure there were some great guys on there… I just couldn’t quite get past all the shirtless bathroom selfies with the toilet seat up. (Heads up guys, If you don’t have someone to take a picture of you, put the bloody toilet seat down and maybe clean the counter off) Or another favorite of mine, flipping the bird at the camera. (World's biggest eye roll) A picture really does say a thousand words and 2 of those words would be “Hell No!”
I ended up going on this dating site called Hinge. I had tried it before, and I really liked the concept as it’s easy to navigate and put a profile together. Unfortunately, there aren’t that many dudes in my demographic (-5 years + 5 years). So, I took the dealbreaker option off of the age requirement and although it’s flattering that the younger guys gave me a shout-out, it’s just not my jam anymore. And I’m sure there are tons of great guys over 55, as well… It just seems like the gap between my 49-year-old self and the 55 plus, is just a little too far apart. Mind you, Brad Pitt is 57… Unfortunately, he is more than 100 km away;)
Moral of the story, I ended up meeting 3 local fellas. The first guy was 48, and he had ticked all the boxes, but I wasn’t attracted to him. The second dude was 54, and he, too, ticked all the boxes - but the attraction wasn’t there either. The third guy was my age, and he didn’t tick any of the boxes, but it didn’t matter, there was zero attraction. All 3 of them were really nice, but that elusive spark was missing. (Deep sigh)
So here are a few questions for you:
Do you believe chemistry is overrated?
Do you think you can develop that elusive spark over time?
Or do you believe you should lower the bar and good enough is good enough?
I have met a decent number of men over the last few years -in real life and online- and one thing I do know for certain, chemistry is really, really hard to come by, but when that spark is there, it sure does feel good! If only you could bottle that butterfly feeling, you’d make a gajillion;)
I’m at the stage of life, post divorce, where I would really like to meet someone. I want to fall in love again… I want to share my dreams... I want someone to hold onto me when times are tough… I want to fight fairly, because I know it’s not all rainbows and flowers all the time… I want someone to tell me when I’m being ridiculous… I want someone to help put the duvet cover back on the comforter because it really is a 2 person job.
In a nutshell, I want it all - The good, the bad and the sometimes sad parts of life are better shared with someone. Maybe it’s time to get a fish?!?
XX
Danielle
P.S. If you’re a solo flyer like myself, I don’t care what they say… Do not stay home! Go for walks, hang at the beach (if applicable) or get out in nature. Trust me when I tell you- If you’re living in my neck of the woods, it’s more than safe to sit outside in a coffee bar, wine bar or restaurant/pub. We, as humans, are not meant to go it alone… So reach out if you’re struggling ♥️
